Which is all a matter of perspective and if you need help to see plus understand?
That’s what I am here for. ⁂
https://dictionary.cambridge.org/dictionary/english/be-in-the-same-boat

28 So Christ was sacrificed once to take away the sins of many; and he will appear a second time, not to bear sin, but to bring salvation to those who are waiting for him.

Otherwise?

The point is when you remove all the hate and pressure to quit?
All that is left is them quitting on their own if they ever do, otherwise?
Negativity towards them will just push whatever is left of them away into deeper negativity type places which many feel guilt for presently.
Better an addicted son than no son at all type of reality.

― Martin Luther King Jr., I Have a Dream
https://lucifer.vision/
